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Internet Dating from a Woman's Perspective~ Snuzebutton ~ These are some stereotypes of World Wide Dating Web, from a woman's perspective. Cut and Paste Man -- This is the guy that generally lacks character. You can distinguish him pretty easily because he will write a short autobiography describing everything about himself, his hobbies, and what-not. He will more than likely have nothing interesting to say, but carry on endlessly about himself. He is a numbers man who feels the more people he writes, the more responses he will get. The thing he usually forgets is to ask about you; which makes it very difficult to write him back . . . not that you would really want to write him back anyway. He will be willing to meet with just about anyone who shows interest. The desperate attract the desperate. Stay away from this man! If you are unsure about cut and paste men; it is advisable to post more than one profile. He will probably read your stats and write you the exact same letter to both. This guy doesn't pay a lot of attention to a woman's needs, and is typically self-centered. There are many different types of cut and paste men, and not all of them are like this. Some men just aren't good at writing to strangers. They will have a brief little note that they might adapt more personably to those they find appealing. This man is usually shy in person, but can open up if you show interest in him. He is not exactly a type. He's more of an individual that is searching for a certain kind of woman, but not quite sure to go about it. Beefcake -- Now this guy is interesting. In fact, it's as if he is the same man cloned into thousands. This guy loves to workout and is proud to show off his body. He too usually lacks character, and can be very exhausting to listen to. Sometimes they are smart, and they can feel the need to tell you just how smart they are. Just keep in mind that people are what they are, not what they say they are. They especially don't like to be stereo-typed, and can be very harsh when you reject them. Mr. Successful -- Now if you are a material girl that likes shallow men with money and power, then you will surely like Mr. Successful. He will write and immediately tell you what he does for a living, how much money he makes, what kind of property he owns, and how sought after he is. He will bribe you with things like vacations, jewelry, and the finer things in life. Now, mind you there are a lot of successful men that are not this flashy. They are able to be real, and are usually a little more reluctant to tell you personal things. This is the man to seek if you want a successful man. The Great Pretender -- Now if you can play along with this guy, then you might actually be surprised with how much fun he can be. You must be able to communicate with each other though . . . otherwise you are wasting your time, because this guy is not real! He is more than likely someone just curious to see what kind of people date on the Internet. Although he can be a creative and intelligent man, he lacks any reality. If you can bring out his honest side, then you might actually have a winner. You never can tell with the pretenders. Sometimes they get carried away with how they want people to see them. They live an alter ego online, and will be too reluctant to actually meet. This is because he is afraid of rejection, and doesn't want for you to see him as he really is. Teenagers Playing Grown Up -- Now, it's really easy to spot a teenager playing around. There are a lot of really smart kids out there, but I have a sure-proof way of figuring them out. No matter how smart they are, they lack one thing: experience in life! If you can be cynical and ask a few historical questions that only an adult would know: for instance, ask off-the wall questions about sex, or what kind of music they listened to in high school. Then ask what year they graduated. They will eventually know you are on to them, and leave you alone. They can also be very inconsistent, and not very considerate. The Know-It-Alls -- Now this guy is very arrogant and frustrated with women. He will judge you right away, and think he has you all figured out. And if you post a picture and are attractive, then he will immediately accuse you of being a fake. The question that still lingers in my mind is "what do they think they are accomplishing by going around harassing women they don't even know?" Obviously this guy has no chance, and has probably never had a good woman. Hmmmm, I wonder why . . . just don't let this guy get to you. You will completely waste your time and energy, and he will just put you in a bad mood. Every service I have seen has a blocking option. Just don't hesitate . . . block this jerk! The Sensitive Artist -- Now this is a deep man. He is in touch with his emotions, and can ramble on about anything spiritual. He may touch or enlighten you..... He can also be a complete bore. He can not be stereotyped, because an artist always strives to be different than the rest. That is essentially what makes him like all the other artists. He doesn't like to follow the crowd. He likes simple pleasures, and dark little hideaways that no one knows about. He hates to be judged, and loves to be appreciated for who he is. Whatever you do, don't be rude to the artist! They are very sensitive, and will take everything personal. If you like this type, then make sure he is genuine, and not just a show-off. A true artist never brags. Mr. Relationship -- This guy is looking for a partner to be faithfully by his side. He is tired of dating, and just wants to settle down. Now this is very touchy. How does one look for a relationship when there is no special person in their life? He wants to move fast, and doesn't have very high standards. He can be toyed with very easily, and will soon become desperate and pathetic if you let him. There are also the guys that aren't necessarily looking for a relationship, but are open to having one if they find the right person. These guys are a more real, however they are a little unsure of what they really want. There is nothing wrong with this, so long as they are not completely schizophrenic, and are comfortable with themselves. This guy can be okay. The Romantic -- He is aware of your needs, pays attention to details, and can sweep you off your feet. He knows exactly what women want, and is great at being the perfect man. He is attentive and caring. He remembers everything you tell him. He can touch your soul and make you think he is the man of your dreams. Beware! He is not like this forever. He gets bored very easily, and will quickly forget about you as easily as he remembered your favorite song. As fun and exciting as he may be, he is not a keeper. He is a man that is always looking for more. No one woman can truly satisfy his desires. He is restless, and can not be expected to stay in a relationship for long. I do not recommend falling for such a man, especially if you are waiting for your prince to come. He will destroy you, and might change your whole outlook on men. Just remember, not all men are the same. Unfortunately, we can't keep the romantics. They are meant for everyone to enjoy. So long as you know in your heart that he is just for fun, then you will not get hurt. We all need a little romance every now and then, but not for the expense of our dignity. Cyber-Freaks -- I shouldn't have to get into detail about this one. He is a great writer, and can touch you without even being in the room. He is brilliant on the keyboard, but usually not too interesting in person- that is if you ever actually get to meet him. Like the pretender, he is afraid of rejection, and has a tendency to suddenly disappear. A way to test him, is to ask him to call your voice mail. If he calls right away, then he is potential. If he waits until he has time, then he is not. Think about it. If he has time to write you a good letter, then surely he has time to make a quick phone call. This guy is usually either full of it, or married. And then there were some -- The rest of the guys, are pretty genuine, and may slightly fall into one or many of these categories. It is always important to remember not to take the Internet too seriously. Some guys can be a little pushy, others can be really pushy. Don't give in! If someone gives you their phone number right away, then they are way too eager and probably have no patience. Just don't bother writing them back. Even if they seem interesting. You will start to feel overwhelmed if you start to talk to a complete stranger on the phone to have idle chit chat. My philosophy is, "If they can't write, then they probably can't talk either." Just because some people can't spell, or use proper punctuation, that doesn't mean they are stupid. Try not to judge people on their grammar, and just listen to the words they write. An education doesn't necessarily make someone smart. I am a firm believer in common sense. If a man has common sense, and can understand you, then all the statistics of dating are insignificant. We are women! We are blessed with a gut instinct. If something doesn't feel right, then it probably isn't. |
