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The New ERA • Perspectives • Internet Dating Trilogy: Where Else Are You Going to Meet Someone?

Internet Dating Trilogy:
Why Not to Meet on the Internet?

~ Cerissa ~

At Work. Uh . . . okay. It happens. But unless you work in a really big place, your selection is going to be somewhat limited. Over half of the people you work with are probably married. Of the rest, about half will be of the sex who you are not interested in. There are likely to be problems if you date someone who is either above you or below you in the workplace hierarchy. And if you meet someone where you work, and it doesn't work out, you are going to have to see him or her every day. Ugh.

Through Friends. Most circles of friends already know each other, so there isn't much chance you'll run into someone new unless it's arranged. And if it's arranged, there's a pretty good chance that someone is arranging it because they have a cousin who can't get a date any other way. Ugh.

In the Parking Lot of Your Apartment Complex. I met someone this way. He left a rose on the windshield of my car every day until I finally broke down and called the number that was on an accompanying note. At first meeting, it was perfectly obvious that we had nothing in common and I didn't really want to see him again. Unfortunately, that's pretty tough when you live across the lot from each other. Every time I took the trash out, I would see the curtains in his window twitch. Ugh.

In a College Class. Not a bad thought if you happen to be of an age and in a circumstance that it's feasible. But if you are... uh... of more mature years, you are likely to find a lot of people who are too young to be of interest. You are also likely to find a few people your own age who have been displaced from their jobs and starting over... in other words, not self supporting. Ugh.

In a Bar. This might work, if you are comfortable going and hanging out in bars. Not all of us are. Just bear in mind that someone who you will meet there... um... likes to go and hang out in bars! Ugh.

In a Church Group. The perfect resource for the religious, I suppose. But those of us who are less... spiritually inclined... may not feel compelled to pretend belief for the sake of meeting a member of the opposite sex. And if we did meet someone that way, it would likely be a person of strong religious orientation. Ugh.

At a Health Spa. Again, a good resource for someone whose interests lean that way anyway. But those of us who consider jogging to be an indication of severe mental illness might not want to go and pretend. And, again, someone we met there would likely be of a very health-conscious nature. Ugh.

At a Grocery Store. Remember now, I'm writing from a female perspective. I'd estimate that the average single man goes to a grocery store about once a month, and when he gets there, he makes it a personal challenge to see how fast he can get back out again. Being generous, let's say that Mr. E. Bachelor spends 1 hour per month in the store. This gives you a 0.01% chance of him being there at any given time. Not very good odds.

Personal Ads in a Newspaper. OK, this might work. The paper in my home town doesn't have very many of these ads, though, so the odds that you will meet somebody interesting through them are somewhat less than the 'net. And be sure to see Cerissa's Rules of Safe Cybersex before you run out to date them. Even though the media is different, a personal is a personal is a personal.

Why Meet on The Internet?
Why Not to Meet on the Internet?